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Being dominant is about exercising influence or control. Governing matters; being in charge. Predisposed to taking over and wanting to maintain power.


A Dominant is a person who exercises the power to take control of a person or situation through usage of some means (such as physical, mental, financial, etc.). They may be the dominant partner on a regular basis, perhaps within a power exchange relationship, or only for the duration of a scene. The term can be associated with being on the giving or controlling end of bondage, discipline or sadism but a dominant's activities might not include any of these.

As a matter of respect, it is common for "Dominant" to be written with a capital letter.

Dominants vary in how seriously they take their responsibilities and power and their motivations include demonstrating skill and power, having ownership of another person, being the object of affection and devotion.

The term Dominant as a noun is mostly synonymous with Dom but some people use it more widely to denote anyone disposed to be dominant and would therefore say that a Dominant might be a top, a Dom/Domme or a Master/Owner.

A dominant need not be a sexual top; for example, a female dominant may command her submissive to penetrate her.

Note that some partners like to switch roles from one encounter to the other, or even during a single encounter, depending on mood and preference. See switch.

Dominant behaviour

A dominant person enjoys being in control of a submissive person. Reasons for this are said to include demonstrating skill and power, having ownership of another person, and being the object of affection and devotion. Domination may be the way in which the dominant feels most comfortable expressing and/or receiving affection. Service oriented dominants would add that it is obviously useful to have the resources and abilities of another human at their disposal.

There may be other motives, including pleasure taken not only in sheer power but in the suffering of others, thrill seeking in taking risks and outright self destructiveness. That is why many in the BDSM community are concerned with establishing the motivations of those involved in an encounter and advise caution in making BDSM connections.

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