User:Thunder
Lifestyle Dom aged 51 Founder of UKEssx MSN Group
Started the then "Essex Munch" which was based in Southend and was the first Munch in Essex. Then started the "West Essex & East London Munch" in Ilford but ceased "munch making" in March 2005 because of other KinkFest commitments happy that there were now many Munches both in Essex & London
Crew Member of Unfettered promoters of KinkFest. Celebrating and Defending the diverse BDSM/Fetish Community
In the lifestyle about 9 years. Experienced in most aspects of BDSM. Interested not just in the body but also the mind of a submissive. An erotic sadist who cares for those who accept what I do.
As I said in a recent weblog
Reading a number of weblogs recently I see a divide between those, like me, who consider themselves to be a lifestyle Dom and those who live out fantasies via clothing and or going to Clubs etc.
To me, my personal life is just that, who I currently see, what I actually do, is noone's business but my own and the person I might be currently seeing. IF I chose to display some photos in my album then it's just to share a few things, likewise if from time to time I reveal something personal in a weblog .IF I chose, to, perhaps, go to a club that is primarily for a change of "furniture" , maybe to meet up with friends, but NOT the reason for me being a Dom.
Clothing is not, to me, what makes a Dom/me . I have never suscribed to the view that "Real Doms wear Leather Trousers" Nor that the wearing of a variety of pretty hats, concern about new corsets, cupboards full of shoes/boots make a Domme.
I have always had a dominant personality. In my professional life it is many years since (in fact since shortly after I professionally qualified) I took orders from anyone and only accepted those as personal clients if they were honest and open with me.
Think of Alan Sugar in the Apprentice. When I was a "high flyer" partner in a "whizz kid" practice, I see reflections of myself. Though if someone kept up with me I welcomed them and didn't consider them to be rivals.
The problem with the "scene" is that too many "scene people" are full of petty jealousies, rivalries, living in tit bits of gossip, concerned with their outwards appearances and clothing to "prove" they are Dominant.
I am lifestyle and proud of it :)
