Topping from the bottom
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| − | '''Topping From the Bottom''' is a phrase used in the [[lifestyle]] to describe a situation or relationship where the [[bottom]], or [[submissive]], partner is | + | '''Topping From the Bottom''' is a phrase used in the [[lifestyle]] to describe a situation or relationship where the [[bottom]], or [[submissive]], partner is controlling the encounter, directing events, or calling the shots. |
| − | In an [[Sadomasochism|SM]] [[scene]], the [[Bottom (BDSM)|Bottom]] often will have quite a lot of control over what is going to happen and even just how it is going to happen, with the [[Top (BDSM)|Top]] | + | In an [[Sadomasochism|SM]] [[scene]] between partners who do not have a long term relationship, the [[Bottom (BDSM)|Bottom]] often will have quite a lot of control over what is going to happen and even just how it is going to happen, with the [[Top (BDSM)|Top]] adjusting to the bottom's indications quite closely. |
| − | When referring to a [[sub]] or [[slave]], the phrase '''Topping From the Bottom''' is often used as a negative assessment of the [[submissive]]'s behaviour, or perhaps as a | + | When referring to a [[sub]] or [[slave]] in a longer term relationship, the phrase '''Topping From the Bottom''' is often used as a negative assessment of the [[submissive]]'s behaviour, or perhaps as a reflection of the quality of the [[dominant]]'s control. It is quite pejorative in this sense. Sometimes, however, in such a situation/relationship, it is quite acceptable when the submissive is teaching the dominant something. |
Some submissives have strong ideas about how they think a dominant should behave and are forthright when someone doesn't dominate them just the way they want to be dominated. People who make a habit of this are also sometimes called ''pushy subs'' or ''pushy bottoms''. | Some submissives have strong ideas about how they think a dominant should behave and are forthright when someone doesn't dominate them just the way they want to be dominated. People who make a habit of this are also sometimes called ''pushy subs'' or ''pushy bottoms''. | ||
Revision as of 16:19, 25 July 2006
Topping From the Bottom is a phrase used in the lifestyle to describe a situation or relationship where the bottom, or submissive, partner is controlling the encounter, directing events, or calling the shots.
In an SM scene between partners who do not have a long term relationship, the Bottom often will have quite a lot of control over what is going to happen and even just how it is going to happen, with the Top adjusting to the bottom's indications quite closely.
When referring to a sub or slave in a longer term relationship, the phrase Topping From the Bottom is often used as a negative assessment of the submissive's behaviour, or perhaps as a reflection of the quality of the dominant's control. It is quite pejorative in this sense. Sometimes, however, in such a situation/relationship, it is quite acceptable when the submissive is teaching the dominant something.
Some submissives have strong ideas about how they think a dominant should behave and are forthright when someone doesn't dominate them just the way they want to be dominated. People who make a habit of this are also sometimes called pushy subs or pushy bottoms.
Topping From the Bottom can refer to scening, to sex, to lifestyle behaviour and is even a phrase used with similar meaning in business management.
