Advice: Submissives

You should not read hoping to find out what it is you like. You can read and find yourself thinking "that sounds good" or "I don't think I'd like that" but always try to keep an open mind as something that sounds good may not turn out to be and something you don't think you'd like might get an inner response from you that you have no idea about as yet.

You are going to have to meet real people and play but make sure you read up, or ask, how to do this safely. Learn about SSC and RACK. Know what a Munch is. Find online discussion boards of interest.

Feeling lost is fine - this is not a cut-and-dried area to learn about, it's not like learning about cycling or fishing but more like cooking: a very general and open-to-interpretation subject, with very individual tastes, although with some overall knowledge of what can work under what circumstances and what will never work.

Never fear asking questions. The only really stupid question is the one not asked.

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